Take a moment to think about this: what makes you feel worthy and kind?Do you believe that you are worthy when you receive the approval of others?Do you believe that you will feel worthy when you lose weight or look in a certain way?Do you believe that you will feel dignified when you earn a certain amount, have a certain amount in the bank, or have the house, car or boat that you have always wanted?Will you feel dignified and kind when the person of your dreams loves you and chooses you?Will you feel dignified when you have the children you have always wanted?Will you finally feel dignified and kind when you are famous?I worked with clients who realized all these things that, in their opinion, would finally allow them to feel dignified and kind, before discovering that it did not work.Why not?Wanting to take responsibility for your own feelings is essential for your inner child to feel loved, kind and dignified. When you DO NOT WANT this responsibility and you hold others accountable and take responsibility for others' feelings, the message to your inner child is that he does not deserve your attention.Even if you like things for yourself - for example, getting a massage, bathing, eating well and exercising - if you DO NOT consciously want to be present and attentive to all your feelings, you will entertain yourselves. Most painful feelings and you and changing your thoughts that cause your feelings hurt (Step 1 of Inner Bonding) - your child will feel abandoned, impossible to love and unworthy.Wanting to take responsibility for your own feelings and learning how to take responsibility, moment by moment, is the essential ingredient for feeling kind and dignified. Yet most people do not want this responsibility.What are your beliefs that prevent you from wanting this responsibility?Do you believe that you can not do it - that you are not able to take responsibility for your own pain and joy?It is true that your injured self is not capable of this responsibility. But when you are a loving and connected adult with your spiritual guidance, you are more than capable. It is the consistent practice of the inner bond that develops your loving, spiritually connected adult self.Do you believe that even if you take this responsibility, you will never feel as good as when someone else does it for you?While another's love feels good, he is always temporary, because no one will be with you 24/7. And the others always have their own problems: they get angry, withdraw, blame, judge, resist, etc. Only the love you learn to bring from your higher self is always present and unconditional. And when you learn to remember it, you will discover that it feels better and more fulfilling than anything!Do you think it takes too much time?The reality is that the time and energy needed to AVOID responsibility is far more important than the time it takes to take on this responsibility!Do you believe that it is not your job, that someone else is supposed to compensate you for what you did not receive in your childhood?The reality is that no one else wants this job! If you did not get the love you needed as a young child, it's too late for someone else to do it. And even if someone tries to do it, as long as you surrender yourself, you will never feel kind and dignified. Nobody can take away the pain of your own abandonment.
What Makes You Feel Worthy and Loveable?
Take a moment to think about this: what makes you feel worthy and kind?Do you believe that you are worthy when you receive the approval of others?Do you believe that you will feel worthy when you lose weight or look in a certain way?Do you believe that you will feel dignified when you earn a certain amount, have a certain amount in the bank, or have the house, car or boat that you have always wanted?Will you feel dignified and kind when the person of your dreams loves you and chooses you?Will you feel dignified when you have the children you have always wanted?Will you finally feel dignified and kind when you are famous?I worked with clients who realized all these things that, in their opinion, would finally allow them to feel dignified and kind, before discovering that it did not work.Why not?Wanting to take responsibility for your own feelings is essential for your inner child to feel loved, kind and dignified. When you DO NOT WANT this responsibility and you hold others accountable and take responsibility for others' feelings, the message to your inner child is that he does not deserve your attention.Even if you like things for yourself - for example, getting a massage, bathing, eating well and exercising - if you DO NOT consciously want to be present and attentive to all your feelings, you will entertain yourselves. Most painful feelings and you and changing your thoughts that cause your feelings hurt (Step 1 of Inner Bonding) - your child will feel abandoned, impossible to love and unworthy.Wanting to take responsibility for your own feelings and learning how to take responsibility, moment by moment, is the essential ingredient for feeling kind and dignified. Yet most people do not want this responsibility.What are your beliefs that prevent you from wanting this responsibility?Do you believe that you can not do it - that you are not able to take responsibility for your own pain and joy?It is true that your injured self is not capable of this responsibility. But when you are a loving and connected adult with your spiritual guidance, you are more than capable. It is the consistent practice of the inner bond that develops your loving, spiritually connected adult self.Do you believe that even if you take this responsibility, you will never feel as good as when someone else does it for you?While another's love feels good, he is always temporary, because no one will be with you 24/7. And the others always have their own problems: they get angry, withdraw, blame, judge, resist, etc. Only the love you learn to bring from your higher self is always present and unconditional. And when you learn to remember it, you will discover that it feels better and more fulfilling than anything!Do you think it takes too much time?The reality is that the time and energy needed to AVOID responsibility is far more important than the time it takes to take on this responsibility!Do you believe that it is not your job, that someone else is supposed to compensate you for what you did not receive in your childhood?The reality is that no one else wants this job! If you did not get the love you needed as a young child, it's too late for someone else to do it. And even if someone tries to do it, as long as you surrender yourself, you will never feel kind and dignified. Nobody can take away the pain of your own abandonment.
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