The Only Way to Never Is to Never Say Never

The board is like a mirror, not just for the customer. Even if I sit there and listen, the Spirit of God often says to me, 'Yes, you are talking about that, are not you?'I see it as a good thing. When that happens, it means that I am not deceived by vanity. There is immediate empathy, because there is a personal experience of this type of suffering.Over the years, I have been telling people who lamented in disbelief - "I never thought I would be in such a state - I said I would never do that - and I would never have done, but now I am! As I reflect, I can think of two life situations in which I said, without thinking, that I would never do that. And I did. On both occasions. Yes, twice. These two situations implied a major regret - they implied significant harm and had made me and my family take some paths that we would have preferred not to follow.This kind of situation is what we regularly find in the counseling situation - shock and disbelief.As human beings, we are so inclined to believe our own press, which is the propagation of our own stories that we almost never dispute. Falling into a situation of "never" is such a human thing to do.If we say that we will never divorce, we would do better to do the kind of work on our marriage, which means that this possibility should never happen, and not simply rely on the idea that our partner is committed to the same principle because they do not do it. . I made the promise that we would never divorce, while never doing the work that would have protected against this reality. The only way to never is to never say never.If we say that we will never have an affair, that's fine, but we'd better imagine how much such things happen if we do not keep our hearts constantly. Too easily, we all rest in the fact that our ideals say that we would never do it, without realizing that we are fallible beings, inclined to be desired and necessary. None of us are too far from falling in love with something or someone totally inappropriate. The only way to never is to never say never.If we say that we will never take drugs, drink too much, and not be dependent on something, we will do better not to take into account behaviors that create habits, knowing that certain behaviors should never be adopted. the mind that we are never beyond dependence. By never putting ourselves beyond, we exercise fear of the Lord. The only way to never is to never say never.If we say that we will never end up in jail, public shame, or bankruptcy, we would be better off not breaking the law, engaging in unethical practices, or taking financial risks than we are. should not take. But there is no insurance. We could easily find ourselves incarcerated. It only takes a few seconds of impulsivity at the wrong time, in the wrong place, with the wrong people. It's easy to be tempted into an unethical decision or three. And anyone can fall foul of a bad financial situation. The only way to never is to never say never.Of course, there are a million or more things we could apply that to.The only thing that ensures genuine vigilance against this shocking reality that we would never see ourselves doing is to see ourselves doing it - quite often to take advantage of the new motivation not to do it.To be able to fall into serious sin is to ensure that we hold our hearts against that and empathize with those who have suffered such a fall.